Is Sur’s Plucked and Sprayed Tom Sandoval Gay?

Dear Hank

Sur, Lisa Vanderpump, vanderpump rules,
Tom Sandoval

Our girlfriends forced me and a buddy to watch “Vanderpump Rules” the other night. You probably know it’s a TV show about a bunch of celebrity wannabes that wait tables and work the bar at Sur, that restaurant on North Robertson. So here’s the question: Is that guy Tom, the bartender, gay? The show made a big deal about him having a girlfriend named Kristen. But my buddy and I couldn’t get over that scene where he’s at home shaving his forehead and stressing out that he doesn’t have the right hairspray. We also think it’s kind of weird that he’s so hairless with his shirt off. Our girlfriends are crazy about him and think we’re nuts to suggest he’s anything but hetero. So we all agreed to ask you. By the way, there’s a lot riding on your answer. If you say he’s gay, the gals have to buy us dinner — at Sur, which ain’t cheap. If you say he’s straight, we pay.

Harry Hetero

Dear Harry:

Well, I don’t think we should make too much of the fact that Tom Sandoval got his start in the film business when he was discovered by gay filmmaker David DeCoteau, who cast him in the tastefully homoerotic horror film “Playing with Fire” (2008). DeCoteau, who got his start in the business with critically unacclaimed but brilliantly titled films such as “Creepozoids,” “Sorority Babes in the Slimeball Bowl-O-Rama” and “Nightmare Sisters,” has also made films under the pseudonyms Ellen Cabot and Victoria Sloan. He really made a name for himself with films such as “Playing with Fire,” “Haunted Frat” and “Beastly Boys,” which featured lots of young guys in their underwear in an Abercrombie & Fitch-like move to attract both gay men and straight girls.

DeCoteau acknowledges that in an interview with AfterElton.com, where he says the audience for his films is mostly gay men, “but quite a few straight girls” (maybe your girlfriend among them?). He says he doesn’t know the sexual orientation of his actors, but they all are aware that his films take advantage of their “beauty” and the way they look in boxer briefs, one of his favorite items of clothing.

I’m guessing you are assuming Sandoval is gay because you live in West Hollywood, where shaving chests and foreheads and pubic hair and using lots of “product” in hair is a (thankfully fading) fad among gay men who can’t let go of their adolescence. But you must remember that vacuousness and obsession with beauty are not defining characteristics of gay men, no matter how many leg shavers and eyebrow pluckers you might see at 24 Hour Fitness. I’d argue that everything you’ve observed about Sandoval in that first “Vanderpump Rules” episode is more typical these days of celebrity culture, where vacuousness really rules.

That said, I don’t really know if Tom Sandoval is gay. I’d suggest we all stay tuned and see if Lisa Vanderpump susses that out in her weekly inquisition/staff meeting about the sexual antics of her employees. Meantime, consider going Dutch with the girlfriends for a dinner at Tortilla Republic, which is next door to Sur and quite a bit cheaper. Sorry to disappoint, but even Hank doesn’t know it all, as the guy he’s currently dating frequently reminds him.

Gaily yours,

Hank

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joseph muzzillo
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tom is very handsome has a great body , every gay guy wants him i would hope he is gay but i do not,know for sure

Shut up, haters
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Shut up, haters

straight people, female and male, are uncomfortable with beautiful men, even if the beautiful man is very masculine. So they attempt to undermine the man’s handsome, if narcisstic appearance by crtiicizing the man’s vanity and labeling him as gay. Homophobia and bigotry are alive and well, certainly on this blog. Ugly comments by ugly ugly people.

L
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L

He is 100% gay! I think the only straight cast members are Scheanna (spelling?) and Peter How many times have we seen Tom Sandoval and Tom Schwartz cuddling in bed together? Hint: more times than we’ve seen that duo with their supposed “partners.”

Ricardo
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Ricardo

He is DEFINITELY NOT GAY! We’ve been good friends for YEARS–since we were young and stay in touch ALL the time. If he were gay, I would know it! His metro-sexual behavior comes from years as a model where if you don’t look your best, someone else gets the job! Your girlfriends like him because he takes care of himself, like they probably wish YOU did! (hint…hint)..He and Kristen were together for years (I NEVER really cared for her) and he’s been in relationships with ONLY girls, as long as I’ve known him. He’s told me about being approached by… Read more »

Dixie
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Dixie

HE is SOOOOO gay! I, too have gaydar, and even if I did not, there is no way in hell that he is straight! I would bet my life on it! No straight guys do what he does in primping. Many gay men have girl friends as a cover, but make no mistake, he prefers the men!

kim
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kim

I have a gaydar and he is definitely gay. NO Doubt!!!!!!

Driven Dervish
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I don’t watch reality shows but I was listening to RHOBH while working on my computer and as soon as I heard him talk I looked over at the screen and immediately thought he must be gay and really hot too. I had never heard of him before and here I am today surfing the internet to find out everything about him. He’s definitely gay and I don’t understand why he is trying to pass himself off as something else. He’s too old to be unaware of his own sexuality.

bizu
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bizu

A lot of these answers are coming from middle america red necks who don’t know many gay people.. I’M GAY and the most jock like, str8 acting, muscle built gay man who’d put the fear of god in most str8 men, with that said, I’m the antithesis of most gay men where I don’t float about with high pitched giggles and wear tight clothes. I play rugby, which is a sport that makes american football look girly as hell! My apartment is messy with clothes everywhere like most str8 men….I could care less about cologne on my body… so YES,… Read more »

ryan
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ryan

most recent episode in cabo. him and (jax or the other tom, can’t remember) wake up in bed together with their arms around each other after a drunken night! maybe he’s not officially gay but I’m sure they got a nice little tug in 😉

Marie
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Marie

He has so much chemistry with Arianna that I don’t think he is gay in any way…

Dean Merceron
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Dean Merceron

Tom has the sexiest armpits I have ever seen. When he is bartending, and he is muddling in a glass, you get full-on armpit view. I would tongue-bathe them after a long shift. p.s. Kristen does not deserve him. She is a tragic case and I cannot figure out why he would subject himself to her need to torture others.

Randy
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Randy

Perhaps he’s bisexual.